Having the courage to chase away secret homeschool fears is not easy to do when you’re a new homeschooler. You’re worried about doing everything right and I was no different when I was new to homeschooling.
Learning that my fear was one of the biggest obstacles to overcoming homeschooling and if I could turn back time, I would share these 7 homeschool lies to my younger self.
When the Biggest Obstacle to Overcoming Homeschooling is YOU
ONE/ “Tina, don’t fall for it a bit. Your three year old won’t be behind by the time you get to high school.”
Focusing less on what if my children are going to get behind instead of delighting where they were at would have helped me to teach and savor the here and now moment.
TWO/ “Tina, girl, you know you love Star Wars, so remember what Yoda said. There is no try. Do or do not.”
Even coming from a family where my mom homeschooled my youngest sister, I wished my thinking was less of I’m going to try it for a year and more of what an important life changing decision my family had made.
If I had viewed beginning to homeschool like my commitment to having a child, being a new mom, having a new marriage or making big move to a place where you can’t go back, I would have stressed less.
Realizing more time should have been spent on making homeschool a lifestyle change would have been a better use of my time.
THREE/ “Tina, why didn’t you let the boys watch TV more even when school was finished?”
Instead of focusing on extreme rules for our house like not having a tv and no video games, I should have worked more on finding a balance instead of creating extreme schedules for my little kids.
Realizing that some homeschoolers don’t have a tv in their home by choice is good for their family but not ours. My family likes tv, video games and techie play things and a balance would have been so much better for us.
FOUR/ “Why didn’t you go out during school hours, Tina? What were you afraid of?
I wished I would have changed my school schedule earlier than I did instead of thinking that during the day I couldn’t go out because it was school hours.
Little did I know that even though I lived in Bodunk, U.S.A., homeschoolers are oozing by the thousands. Most people have heard of it before. I was the new one, not homeschooling.
FIVE/ “Girl, you’re stressing way too much by prepping Mr. Senior 2013 for visits by grandma. Why do you feel the need to prove to others that you are exactly what your sons need when it comes to teaching them?”
I wish I would have worried less about proving my homeschool success to my in-laws, outlaws and any other family relationship that I may not have wanted to claim kinship to and focused more on the how-tos of teaching.
SIX/ “Leave the house Tina. It’s okay. Learning is not just taking place within the four walls of your school room. You can actually skip lessons plans. Throw them away if you need to.”
Understanding that field trips, homeschool conventions and open houses are not always in my back yard or even my side of the county, I would have attended more conventions, open houses and gatherings for homeschoolers.
SEVEN/ “Don’t worry about all that homeschool curriculum you’re buying. You’ll be an expert before you know it and if you need it while you’re learning how to teach, then use it. Don’t worry when other people tell you that you won’t use all that curriculum.”
I wished I would have found this quote about the piles of curriculum I had bought and may not get to in a lifetime by Sally Clarkson out of her book Educating the WholeHearted Child, “It is nearly a rite of passage for new homeschooling families to buy curricula that ends up gathering dust on the shelf. Usually, it turns out to require more preparation and involvement than they are willing to invest, or it doesn’t fit their lifestyle. It becomes an investment in experience.What we all learn, though, is that any curriculum is only a tool — it doesn’t really “teach” anything. The attitude and commitment of the teacher is far more important than the tool. So if it doesn’t work, don’t worry. Put your unused used curriculum on the table with everyone else’s and buy real books next time. You’re experienced now.”
Beginning to homeschool doesn’t mean you have to give up the educational tools you learned in public school. Through the years Tina, I’ve learned that changing my expectations opens up the way for a whole new way to learn and that is powerful.
Homeschool fearlessly Tina and rock on!
Also, Tina look over these posts and gently remind yourself today:
- From Struggling Homeschooler to Empowered Educator
- 31 Day Free Homeschool Boot Camp for New Homeschoolers
- How to Cope Successfully With Homeschool Mental Stress
Also, check out my New Bee Homeschooler Program!
Hugs and love ya,